Communication Skills Challenge Three: Expressing myself more clearly and more completely - giving your listeners the information they need to understand (mentally reconstruct) your experiences more fully. One good way is to use ”the five I-messages”: What/how I (1)observe, (2)am feeling, (3) because I interpret/evaluate/need, and now I (4)want to request, and (5)envision/hope for from request. Equally good for self-understanding, too.